The girl really worth having won’t wait for anybody.
—
F. Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise
I lived by this quote for the past year, but I just realized that I don’t want anyone to have me. I don’t want to be a girl that someone has. I am not to be had.
And though she be but little, she is fierce.
— Shakespeare
It’s not my job to make you a better man and I don’t give a shit if I’ve made you a better man. It’s not a fucking woman’s job to be consumed and invaded and spat out so that some fucking man can evolve.
— Jenny Schecter (via slutevah)
(Source: barbecutie)
I love how we tell girls to respect their body but we don’t tell boys to respect girls bodies
Without [legal consent], sexual contact with someone is rape whether you intended to rape or not. A woman who is drunk, unconscious, sleeping cannot give legal consent. And it’s not about a woman simply saying “no,” it’s really about making certain she’s saying yes.
Jaclyn Friedman author of “Yes Means Yes”, coined the term ‘enthusiastic consent’, which flips the traditional lens with which we view consent on it’s head. She asks, “What if, instead of just the absence of ‘no,’ an enthusiastic ‘yes’ was required as a standard for sexual consent?”
[…] “Consent is actually easy to figure out. You have to ask. It’s your job to ask. It’s not gendered. Women also have the responsibility to ask. And if you can’t tell, ask.”
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5 Ways We Can Teach Men Not To Rape
And if the “yes” you receive is obtained through coercion, and/or is not enthusiastic, that does not count as true consent.
(via justthinkingaboutcatsagain)
(Source: sugarkat)
I think a good response to ‘chill out, we’re only joking’ is ‘Oh, no need to get all defensive, you can just man up and own what you said.’
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Give me ammo for the next sexist conversation — MetaFilter (via programmersbeingdicks)
Oh my gosh. Too Perf! So funny!
(via feminishblog)
Freeing yourself was one thing; claiming ownership of that freed self was another.
— Toni Morrison (via weatherproof)
View Larger Excuse the sloppiness. I feel like people are more inclined to read things when they’re a picture, so I made this to give a really BRIEF and SHALLOW explanation of why “reverse sexism” is a bullshit way of describing what’s actually happening: patriarchy backfiring against men. There is a lot more to it than just this, though.
Source for women in advertising: http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2011/jan/20/ipa-women-in-advertising
Edit: sorry it’s so small, click for big version
If you think that representation doesn’t matter, that’s probably because you’re already represented.
We grew up with “role models” pushed by popular media whose success was built around their sexuality. We grew up being told that we talk too much, despite the fact that men statistically hold the floor longer in a conversation. We grew up being told that the ways that we communicate—whether it be how we spell on the internet, the vocabulary that we use, even the intonation of our speech—make us less intelligent. Basically, we grew up in a society that tells us that we are inferior to men and that we will never achieve as much as men.
— Ty Slobe, Where Are Young Feminists? Right Here. (via sparkamovement)
If you claim to be a feminist or believe in equal rights but you don’t call out your bros when they do sexist shit:
- you
- are
- a
- bad
- person
(and you know who you fucking are)
I think we can all recognize that the “it’s a joke excuse” is the most dismissive, self-righteous loophole, created by those who refuse to examine their power, and assume they have not only the right to say whatever they want to people, but the right to control how other people react to what they have said.
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Loose Talk: You can take your “just joking” and shove it.
Posting this again in light of Penny Arcade’s Dickwolves Debacle.
(via xuananigans)
It always struck me that men actually might benefit from the “bumbling idiot” stereotype. In very many of the dysfunctional heterosexual relationships I’ve observed, men basically only work then come home and do nothing, and women do a majority of the actual work and men use this learned or feigned helplessness to get women to do everything for them. They’re socialized this way, I think. I married this very equality talking, sensitive, feminist-ally, politically correct kind of man and yet the day we got back from our honeymoon, my ex husband suddenly became an infant who no longer knew how to operate an iron, pack a grocery bag, balance the budget, take a pee without splattering the entire bathroom, flush the toilet, cook his own meals, return phone calls, put his own dishes in the sink before they turned moldy, or even drop letters off at the post office.
The bumbling idiot stereotype doesn’t hurt men. Men are not being denied jobs or health care or legal rights because of being seen as bumbling idiots. They benefit from the stereotype because it means that women do everything.
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mousesinger (via swordssoarewords)
(Source: beyondgodthefather)
